Wedding Singer Refuses to Perform at Ex-Friend’s Wedding After Being Kicked out of Bridal Party

A wedding singer on Reddit is refusing to perform at a former friend's wedding after being snubbed.

"A friend of mine of nearly 10 years recently got engaged and started planning a wedding for summer of 2025. She asked me to be her bridesmaid at the wedding and I happily said yes. When planning the wedding I asked if they would prefer a traditional wedding gift, or would they want some assistance with the wedding. I am a singer at a wedding band, and we have performed for free for friends and family before and we offered to play a set in exchange for food. She was very excited about the idea," the singer began.

At her friend's engagement party, the singer got into a fight with the friend's groom and was "kicked out" of the wedding party. She was then disinvited from the wedding altogether.

"It's fine. I couldn't pretend to be happy for them at the wedding, it's their day, if they don't want me there, it's okay," she continued.

However, the woman's former friend insisted she still perform at the upcoming wedding since she "booked" them.

"I assumed that since I am no longer welcome at the wedding, I am not required to give a gift either. My former friend (her words) insisted that since they had 'booked' us, we are required to perform at her wedding. For free," the singer shared.

"I told her that we only perform for free for friends and family, and even they pay for accommodation and travel as well as provide us with food at the event. If she wants us to perform, it'll be the standard fee since we are not friends. We have an opening to take the wedding, but we are not doing for free," she concluded.

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People in the comments section of the post agreed the wedding singer should no longer perform at the wedding.

"Remind them all that the performance was to be a gift given because you were a part of the wedding party. You have not only been removed from wedding party but uninvited from the wedding and reception. If you're not allowed at wedding how are you supposed to perform? Wedding etiquette dictates that a gift shouldn't be expected to be given if someone isn't invited to the wedding," one user wrote.

"What peace? They've made it pretty clear you're no longer friends," another shared.

"The performance was going to be your wedding present. You were uninvited so they no longer get a present from you. Simple," someone else advised.

"She doesn't want you at her wedding. She hasn't paid a deposit or anything, since you were planning on doing this for free," another user commented.